Deciding to Decide

April 23, 2014


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There are many things that I learned while growing up in my church. One was what former church presi­dent Spencer W. Kimball termed “deciding to decide.”

For me, I personally decided that I simply wouldn’t do certain things, like be unfaithful, smoke, drink alcohol or use drugs. And I decided it would be the last time I’d have to make a decision about those particular temptations. 

As 19th-century philosopher Thomas Carlyle once said, “A man lives by believing something, not by debating and arguing about many things.” Once you decide to decide, life becomes very simple. You don’t have to think about certain issues or questions again. You simply get on with things and don’t waste time and energy rehashing — debating and arguing — the problems and possibilities.

Deciding to decide and then sticking to those decisions has another benefit. I'm sure I sound old-fashioned, but I think there’s satisfaction to be had in standing firm against the onslaught of temptations that are part and parcel of contemporary life. Saying no consistently can provide a sense of real power in a world that often seems out of control. It also helps you focus on the task at hand, which for me was raising a family and trying to run a business.

Not everyone finds the idea of hard-and-fast choices appealing, but I’ve found it liberating. It can also keep you humble by providing an ongoing reminder that no one’s judgment is so infallible that a few rules aren’t necessary.

Let me know what words of wisdom you live by.  

I’m Bill Marriott and thanks for helping me keep Marriott on the move.

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Mr. Marriott, thank you for these words, our world needs some of the so called "old fashion" ideas.
When my oldest son had his first job his boss was a very demanding and unkind., his parting saying after each confrontation with any of his employees was always "you may not like me but you WILL respect me. Not what you would call a good environment for young people just entering the work force.
One evening my son came home just beat up and so down hearted, he just knew that he would never be able to be good enough for any job. God was with me that night and the words came "Son, respect must be commanded, it cannot be demanded. It is not you, it is his heart, feel bad for him....and let's find another job!

The Vietnamese Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh describes a good cup of tea. You must be in the present moment, mindful and aware,to enjoy the tea, to savor the sweet aroma, to taste the flavor, to feel the warmth of the cup. If you are ruminating about past events or worring about future ones, you will look down at your cup and the tea will be gone. You drank it, but you do not remember, because you were not aware. Life is like that cup of tea. live in the present, its a gift. the past is over, learn from it. The future is not ye here, plan for it, but do not worry. Worry only waste your time and energy. If the creator cloth the lily of the field, then who do you think you are.

Dear Bill:

I enjoy reading all your posts, and I found this one especially inspiring. I look forward to reading many more.

Best regards

To err is human... To be steadfast has it's place however to grow/survive we must change/evolve. Our faith teaches us to trust God through those changes so we can become the man/woman he wants us to become.

Find something you love to do and you will never have to go to work the rest of your life.

"When you are in service to others, you are in service to your God." - works for me in hospitality and in my own life. To use one's talents and abilities to serve others gives the greatest satisfaction, without question....and knowing there's a ripple effect. I may think I'm touching 10 persons a day, but in fact it's hundreds, perhaps thousands, based on the contacts those ten persons have. Believing I'm serving a divine spark in each person, allows me to be a "Lady serving Ladies and Gentlemen" no matter where I am serving.

The words Iive by: keep getting up! No matter
what knocks you down ....
Happiness is a choice not an emotion ...

The single thought I was taught by my parents and remains
with me is this : I will make my living by what I get,
but I will make my life by what I give. It has served me well.

Thank you Mr. Marriott. Coming into manhood has been a blessing because there has been much to achieve and much to overcome. "Deciding to decide" is the face I look at in the mirror. I remind myself..."Bartell you get only one chance to be Bartell."

I say this to myself to not worry about things I cannot control but to focus on the greatness that is this life I have been given; the one life I have.

My father always told me when I got upset over many things , Don't worry, it's only money."

Oddly, enough this comes up a lot in life.